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No matter how old you are, what you do or where you live, there is a good chance that you’ve had your heart broken at the end of a relationship, probably more than once.
Now, before we go on, you need to go and watch this 9 minute video on how to get your ex back. It will truly transform the way you look at everything, and give you some actions you need to take this instant if you want to save your relationship.
Please do it now. Click here to watch the video.
When you are looking at what’s left of an amazing relationship, there is a good chance that you feel overcome with pain and remorse, and you may be so overwrought that you don’t know that what you are going through is reversible!
The truth of the matter is that relationships are easier to recover than you might think. When you are looking at the idea of getting back together with your ex, you will find that by keeping some things in mind that you can help yourself out.
The first thing that you should be thinking about when you are getting back together with someone is that you have time and experience on your side.
If your relationship has been going on for a while, it will be what both of you consider normal. Especially in the first few weeks, living without a significant other and without the support that you have given each other is something that is quite difficult and strange.
You will find that going back to the way things were is actually quite natural and that you can use this to your advantage.
The second thing that you should keep in mind is that you should not let your ex drift too far. If at all possible, leave the lines of communication open and make sure that you can take the time to really consider what you are going to be doing to get them back.
Don’t cut off all email or phone contact, even if it is painful. Continue to talk as naturally as you can and don’t stop yourself from bringing up the relationship.
Just keep it natural and talk about what you can do in order to get the right kind of response. Step up and be blunt about wanting to get back together.
If you are considering attempting to get your ex back, never speak badly about them. Even if you feel as though you have a right to be angry, don’t speak about those feelings with anyone but your ex.
You will find that even things that you tell your friends in confidence have a way of getting around, and this is the last thing you need. When you are looking to make sure that you can get the right results from your attempt to get back together, don’t let gossip sabotage you.
When you are looking to make sure that you are going to be able to get back together with your ex, make sure that you understand why things went wrong. Say that the relationship ended because your significant other cheated.
What can you do to make sure that this doesn’t happen again? What sort of cooperation will it take from them? You will find that unless you have ironed out these things, you will just be repeating history.
Take some time to consider what getting back together with your ex could be like. There are many different options that are open to you when you are looking to get back together with your ex, so don’t despair!
Secret relationships sound exciting and adventurous, donít they? Just having a secret is provocative, but when thereís romance and sex involved that makes the secret even juicier. Do you like know why secret relationships have such a big appeal, and that people wonder why youíre smiling all the time?
Secret relationships arenít uncommon. But you should also realize that they donít always work. In fact, having a relationship thatís a secret can put a huge strain on you as a couple. The odds of this type of relationship only lasting a short time are pretty high.
It can be more difficult than you think to go very long without talking about the relationship. If it werenít secret, you would probably mention your partner throughout the day in casual conversation. Even just mentioning something you saw together or talked about would be a natural thing to do.
But in secret relationships, you have to keep yourself from doing that. You might find it on the tip of your tongue to talk about your partner and have to catch yourself all the time. Having to censor yourself several times a day can be quite a source of stress.
Add to that your partnerís feelings about having to do the same thing. Between the two of you, that can add up to a lot of tension.
Thereís also the worry about being seen together. People in hush-hush relationships donít have the luxury of going out go a great restaurant for dinner. They canít go see the latest movie together, or walk down the road holding hands.
There are exceptions to this. If youíre keeping the relationship secret because youíre good friends and you donít want people to know itís become more, you can still be seen together. But youíll have to give only appearance of friendship around others.
Some relationships are kept secret for that very reason. Friends have become more than that but dotí want to ìjinxî the relationship. Or they decide that their group of friends might not understand. And they think maybe keeping it a secret is a good idea in case things donít work out. Then the friends would never have to know.
Many coworkers who start dating keep the secret for the same reason. Things would just be easier at work if other people didnít know, both while itís happening and in case it ends. And with work situations, such dating might be discouraged making the secret necessary.
But by keeping it a secret for those reasons, itís as if youíre saying that itís probably not going to work out. At least, youíre showing that you have serious doubts about it. How healthy does it seem to be in a relationship that you must believe wonít last, so much so that youíre keeping it a secret?
While the relationship might be thrilling at first and seem like an adventure, the best way to have secret relationships is with the understanding that theyíll only be secret for a short time.
You might think itís too bad you canít take a class called relationships 101 in college. They offer math, physics, literature and tons of classes, but a class on relationships is something that could help everyone. Fortunately, you have the skills already to save your relationship and make it better without needed a relationships 101 course.
Most relationships, no matter what happens, can be saved. There are a few relationships that shouldnít be saved, like those that are abusive or really miserable. But most others have the potential to be fixed. That should be lesson number in any relationships 101 class.
The problem is, people give up too soon. Theyíre angry, hurt, upset and it just seems easiest to get out of the situation that made them that way. Itís all too easy to focus only on whatís happening now, and not the past.
If the relationship was good at one point, and most were or no one would have stayed in it very long, then it really can be that way again. But people have to look past the anger and the problems that are happening now, and remember those good times. Thatís the only way theyíll even want to try to use relationships 101 theory to save the couple.
To cause further problems, often one person is ready to work hard at saving the relationship. But the other person wonít look past the bad to remember the good. That person is ready to chuck it all away. And can only person save a relationship?
Sometimes one person can do it, but itís not easy. Itís hard to stay positive and hopeful when your boyfriend of girlfriend doesnít act or feel the same. It can start to feel like youíre fighting a losing battle.
Relationships 101 lesson #2: Keep fighting the battle, because even if the relationship doesnít heal, it will make you a better person. Thatís because the things youíll do to try to save the relationship are simply good for you, and good for the other person, too.
Itís very important to remember the way you behaved with the relationship was new and going strong. Compare that to how you behave with that person now. And turn things around by acting the way you used to, and doing the things you used to.
Strive to be polite again just as you were in the beginning. Be thoughtful and be a good friend to the person whenever you can, even if youíre not going to get anything out of it. Donít beg them to come back, tell them they need to come back, or threaten what will happen if they donít come back.
When faced with someone acting like that, would you want to be with that person again? Tell yourself that youíll survive no matter what happens, but do your very best to show them the person they want to be with again. Best the best ìyouî no matter what is the best relationships 101 lesson there is.
If you suspect your partner at all, you should look for signs of cheating in a relationship. Usually if you see smoke, a fire is burning somewhere. So if you have doubt in your partnerís fidelity, thereís probably a reason.
Remember that just because you see signs of cheating in a relationship, though, that doesnít necessarily mean that cheating is going on. Once youíve seen the signs, youíll have to look further to determine if cheating is really happening.
And sometimes there are no signs of cheating in a relationship and yet cheating is going on. Itís not an easy position to be in, to have to figure these things out.
The following signs can certainly lead you one direction or another. Donít make a decision just based on one or even a few of them. But a lot of evidence can certainly let you know that something may be wrong, and you may want to look at little closer.
- Secret cell phone conversations are one of the top signs. If your partner leaves the room every time the cell phone rings, you have to wonder why. Were they taught thatís polite? If theyíre at all strange acting about the conversation, you should pay attention.
- Sudden change in hygiene is common when someone is having an affair. If your partner never goes to any special trouble for you to make sure he or she looks and smells good, a change in this could be worrisome. If they’re making themselves nice for you, thatís great. If theyíre dolling up to go out, you have to wonder why.
- More arguments can be one of the signs of cheating in a relationship. Particularly if it seems your partner is starting the argument for no reason and then storming out because of it. It could be just an excuse to leave and have some time away from you without having to come up with another excuse.
- Catching your partner in a lie can mean trouble. Even the smallest lie shows that personís willingness to lie in general. Look for connections between that lie and the possibility of an affair.
- An increase in computer time can be a bad sign. If your partner is spending hours online after youíre in bed or while youíre doing other things, it could be an affair.
- A common sign of cheating is if your friends act strange. They might know something you donít and feel uncomfortable around you.
- And a painfully common sign of cheating is if your partner accuses you of cheating or hints that he thinks you might be having an affair. Very often, thatís a guilty conscious talking and youíre being accused of the thing thatís causing him or her guilt.
The only way to know for sure is to have real evidence. So remember that even though these are common signs of cheating in a relationship, none of them can be used to prove an affair is occurring.
Does it seem like relationships and cheating go to together like chocolate and peanut butter? It can start to when everyone you know has had someone cheat on them. And chances are that youíve had someone cheat on you. Or when it comes to relationships and cheating, you were the one doing the cheating.
Cheating hurts. It hurts the person whoís being cheated on, and believe it or not, it hurts the cheater. The cheater has to hide what heís doing, probably has to lie to keep it a secret and has to feel the guilt that goes with it.
Even if he or she doesnít seem guilty, they probably secret feel guilty. When there are relationships and cheating occurs, that doesnít mean the end of the relationship every time.
Youíve been in a relationship and youíve been cheated on, and youíve gotten back together or youíve never broken up. Can you really make it work now that the other person has cheated? How do you get over it? Will he cheat again?
Itís not easy to save these relationships, and cheating is something that can sometimes happen more than once. But if you can truly rebuild your trust in the other person, then you can stay together and be happy.
Do you know why the person cheated on you? Thatís a very important consideration in whether youíll be able to trust them not to cheat on you again. Were things not good in your relationship at the time, or was it just convenient and just ìhappened?î You should be able to have a calm discussion about these reasons.
If the reasons turn out to be things like he or she was simply bored that day and the opportunity came along, then you may have problems. If the other person can give no better reasons for hurting you that way, you may want to consider whether you really can forgive them to be happy. It wonít be easy.
If you were having problems, then at least the other person may have thought that the relationship was going to end anyway. They might have felt ignored or undervalued. This is not to give them a good excuse for cheatingóthey were wrong. But it can help you to understand what they were thinking at the time and you can work on the problems together.
Relationships and cheating are a curious mixture, with some couples able to move on quite well after the devastation of an affair. Sometimes, though, the person who was cheating on canít get over it. To stay in the relationship when thereís no trust there, and he or she fears that the other will cheat at any time, can be a miserable thing to do.
The constant suspicions can make you miserable, and can make the other person feel under a microscope 24/7. You have to decide to trust the person not to hurt you again, and let go of the fear even though it can be very hard to do in relationships and cheating situations.
I decided to write this article for you today, even though it’s a little different than the information I usually put up here on the blog, because I honestly believe this has the power to change your life for the better.
I know it changed mine, and I feel so strongly about it that I couldn’t bring myself NOT to share it with you.
By now I’m sure you’ve at least heard of the movie The Secret, even if you haven’t actually seen it. But just in case, The Secret is all about something called The Law of Attraction, which basically says that we attract everything that’s in our lives, whether it’s good or bad, through our thoughts and emotions.
What’s really important about this is that, as you’ll notice, this philosophy of the way the world works says that we attract both good AND bad — whether consciously or unconsciously. So that means that you somehow, some way, attracted whatever relationship problems you’re having right now.
I don’t want that to sound harsh. But I’ll tell you what — I’ve seen this theory proven out time and time again in my own life. Once you accept that you’re in control over everything that happens in your life, I can’t tell you how empowering it is!
Here are a couple clips that kind of sum up what the movie is all about. The first is designed to be a sort of daily source of motivation.
The second is a “leaked” clip of the first 20 minutes of the movie.
Take a look and then please keep reading below the vids…
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The reason why I’m telling you about this is because when I first first saw the movie about a year and a half ago, back when the only way you could get it was to go the website and pay to watch it online, it totally changed my life.
I was going through a really tough time when I decided to check it out, and I’m more than a little embarrassed to admit that by the end I was actually crying.
Now I hardly ever cry because of a movie, but this thing so touched me, and made me realize how much joy we can have in our lives, that I just broke down.
It touches on everything — how to be more successful financially, how to overcome enormous obstacles, and, maybe of most interest to you right now, how to have an absolutely amazing relationship.
Basically, how to find AND KEEP your soulmate.
If you haven’t seen it go rent it from Netflix or Blockbuster or wherever you get your DVDs.
It really can be a life-changing experience.
Anyway, the reason I’m writing to you about it is because, while it really did work for me in helping me to create the life I’ve always dream of, sometimes it seemed that the principles she teaches didn’t always work.
It’s hard to explain, but something just seemed to be blocking me from achieving certain things in some areas, while in other areas of my life, everything would play out exactly as I wanted.
I’ve never really been much of a “self-help” kind of person. I never bought tapes or books or anything like that. But thanks to this movie and the experiences I had afterwards, I started looking into this a little more, and actually buying some audio programs and other products that helped me grow, become more self-aware, and yes, improve my life dramatically.
One of my favorite places to get these programs is a place called Nightingale-Conant. They have some truly amazing programs there from some of the best minds in the world on all kinds of topics.
The more programs I get from them, the more I want! They’re THAT good.
One of my favorites is something called The Missing Secret
by Dr. Joe Vitale. This was one of the first programs I got from them, and I did so because, like I said above, while the principles taught in the movie
The Secret seemed to work most of time, they didn’t work 100% of the time. The Missing Secret
changed all that.
It really is a remarkable program and will help you understand why you are where you are in your life right now, and how to get to where you really want to be. Click on the links above or on the image below to check it out for yourself.
The second Nightingale-Conant product I highly recommend is a program from Anthony Robbins called Unleash the Power Within
Tony Robbins is a guy I used to make fun off because he always seemed so over the top. But since I’ve picked up a few of his products and actually used them, I can see what a truly genuine guy he is. And I’ll tell you, he’s an amazing motivator.
If this guy can’t get your life headed in the right direction, I’d be shocked. Honestly.
I encourage you to check out this program here
. Actually, anything you find by Robbins on the Nightingale site is going to be good. I just happen to like this one in particular.
So that’s it, gang. Like I said, I know that this post is a little different from the others I do, but I really want to make sure that you know about all the great tools out there that you can use for creating lasting relationships that really, truly work.
I hope you’ll take a look at some of the things mentioned above and let me know what you think.
Saving your relationship and rekindling the flame that you ignited together can be a lot of work, but more often than not, that work is worth it. If you’ve decided that saving your relationship is something you want to do, and you’re willing to put the work in, you can be successful.
So let’s take a look at how it’s done…
First, understand that it’s inevitable that there will rocky moments in any relationship regardless of how much the two of you love one another.
The question that remains is how to go about recapturing what you once shared. Love is not something that comes along everyday. When two people find each other and fall in love, it will take some work to keep it going. The occasional disagreement will occur. The problem is when those disagreements become so frequent that it puts enough strain on a relationship to cause it to fall apart.
If this describes what you’re going through, the very first thing I would do is head over here to watch a short 10 minutes video on some of the things you should be doing RIGHT NOW to begin the process of repairing your relationship. There’s some great advice there, and I highly recommend you check it out.
Arguing — how much is too much?
In fact, arguing is very healthy. You will not always agree on everything. Even though you have formed together as one, you are still two separate people with two opinions of how things should work.If your partner has done something that you feel is unforgiveable, then maybe it is best to part your ways.
Living with that hurt and anger will only contribute to further issues and promote additional arguments that are really unnecessary. An affair, for example, could be perceived as something that is just not forgivable. And although a lot hurt and anger resulted from this action, one should really take a look at the reason this happened.
In most cases people do not just decide to cheat on their significant other. Something happened in the relationship that led up to this action.The first step in salvaging the relationship is getting to the root of the real problem. If you never discover the issue that really caused the damage, then it cannot be dealt with and will only lead to further issues.
What to do if communication has broken down
These issues could cause permanent damage to not only the relationship, but each other’s health as well. As much as one would like to just shut his/her eyes real tight and wish the problem away, it is not going to happen. Communication is imperative to the relationship.
And as many times as we have heard this, there several situations I am confident that can recalled that our communication with another individual was not exactly up to par. We were all teenagers at one time. And I know I personally tried to pull the wool over my mom’s eyes a couple of times.
It was not long before I realized that if I was honest and upfront with her, I would be given a lot more freedom. Romantic relationships are very similar. Keeping the communication flow open with your partner will allow for the trust to grow.
He or she will not have the insecurities that can arise from lack of communication.If all else fails, maybe seek professional help. There are many good relationship counselors that can help you with your issues, or maybe just act as a mediator between the two of you while you discuss your issues.
Find someone that you both feel comfortable with.Take your time. It took time to build the relationship. It is definitely going to take time to heal. If you both agree to try and work things out, there really should be no rush in mending the tears.
And remember, please go here and watch this video right away. It will get you started on the right foot in saving your relationship. Hope this helps.
Ahhh, love! Such a wonderful feeling when you are in it, and there is no other individual that you could possibly share that emotion with the way you do with your significant other. The next step is marriage. Both of you have vowed that there will never be another, and you promise to love and cherish one another for the rest of your lives.
Suddenly the soft music stops playing in the air…the honeymoon is over. The realization that there is more to a marriage than just the love shared between each other, it really takes work.
Marriage is a commitment and almost even a contract between the parties involved. Should that contract ever be compromised, what would one do? There are ways to save a troubled marriage. In some cases, saving it is much better than walking away. (One note, however — in my opinion, if the relationship is abusive in anyway, both parties should consider parting their ways. If not, then working to save it can be the best way to go.)
Before going any further, the very best resource I’ve found for saving a marriage is right here (click on the link to check it out). There’s a very quick video there that will walk you through some of the steps you should be taking immediately. It’s well worth the 10 minutes or so it will take to watch it.
Some things you should do (and other you should never do)…
In order to save the marriage, one must take a look at what is actually causing the problem. Relationship expert Emily Battaglia discusses some of the top reasons that can cause damaging results to a marriage.
The first one she mentions is withholding sex. For some it is the constant bickering that keeps them from having the desire. Sex is a very intimate moment that is shared between two people….it is a bonding, and should not be overlooked.
If it is the fighting, get over it. After all, it has been said that make up sex is the best. She goes on to discuss other issues like spending too much time with family, work, friends…..spending too much money.
For whatever reason your marriage has been damaged, and needs instant attention. By discovering where the issue was actually started, the involved parties have taken the first step in salvaging their relationship.
Are you committed?
Commitment is the next step in saving your marriage. Both parties have to want to make an attempt to save what they have been building for the past however many years. It is imperative that the heart and mind stay open during the rocky stage.
Set goals. Make them small and positive in the beginning. They need to be achievable. Any negative setback can only cause additional harm to the relationship. If the goal is not achieved, this could definitely have a negative effect on the situation.
Forgiveness, although difficult due to the anger that has risen, is an absolute obligation you both need to apply. Whatever it was that went wrong in the relationship, you have to ask yourself is it really worth obsessing over?
So some extra money that you all really did not have budgeted was used improperly. You both discussed it, or argued, and it is over. There is nothing you or your spouse can do to change what happened. What you can do is find a solution to the current problem at hand and find ways to avoid it in the future.
Saving your marriage will not happen overnight, so patience is a must during this process. It could months or even years to salvage what you all had. Take your time and do what is right for both of you. And remember, please click here to watch this quick video before you do anything else. It will help.
If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?
These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway.
If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.
Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time.
But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back.
So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong.
This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act.
In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.
Breaking up is always a very painful thing — no doubt about it.
If you are truly in love with your girlfriend, it’s difficult to get her out of your mind. It’s a tough time for you, yes, but there isn’t any need to despair. Though it’s difficult, it’s not impossible to woo back your girlfriend.
But first, let’s talk about some of the things you should NEVER do. I’ll be honest. When my girlfriend broke up with me, I did all these things and a few more that aren’t even mentioned. And it delayed our getting back together by months.
Now listen, the first thing you need to do is go here and watch this 10 minute video. It will spell out step-by-step the first things you have to do to start the process of winning your girlfriend back.
It even has some tips for what to do if you made all the WRONG moves already like I did. You can recover from it and get back on the road to reconciliation, but you have to start doing the right things immediately.
So watch this video and then come back here.
Okay, now, you need to sit down and think out the answers of a few questions essential to any relationship. You need to ask yourself: What went wrong? Honestly, do you think it’s your fault? And finally, are you ready to give it another shot? Do you really want your girlfriend back?
It’s important to know the reason for the disintegration of the relationship. If you do decide that you want to get back together with your girlfriend you need to know what went wrong in the relationship in the first place. Was there another man? Is she still interested in you? What did she complain about in the relationship? It’s important that you get a clear and honest view of the relationship, without prejudices or bias.
Only if you know the reason for the relationship having gone wrong can you try to make it work again.
It’s essential that you show your ex-girlfriend that you still care.
If you think that you had changed earlier, try to change back to the person she fell in love with. Remember what she liked and disliked when you two were together. Invite her over for lunch if you’re still on cordial terms with her, or send her little gifts to show how much you love her.
Have confidence in yourself. Don’t become a miserable loser /stalker: your ex will respect you for it.
There are some underhand, sly tricks in the book that you could try as a last resort. Like trying to date another girl. If your ex-girlfriend still cares about you and wants to get back together, this will definitely get her jealous and might make her regret her decision.
However, don’t get too involved in this particular method, she might just think that you have moved on and are no longer interested!
Another good method might be The Talk. Yes, this is what most guys dread but in fact, can lead to a better understanding of where you and your ex stand. Invite her over for coffee and your favorite coffee place and honestly talk to each other.
Try to express how you feel at the present moment, ask her what she went through and whether she thinks that you can still work it out. It’s important that you be both loyal to her and be completely frank.
All relationships need hard work to make it successful. So decide whether you are committed enough to go that extra mile. If you two really care about each other and understand each other’s emotional needs, it’s best that you try to mend the cracks.
Click here for the best advice I’ve found on how to win your girlfriend back. Believe me, it works.
But remember, if she doesn’t want you back, there’s no point in hanging onto lost causes. Try to re-evaluate your priorities and move on.