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I decided to write this article for you today, even though it’s a little different than the information I usually put up here on the blog, because I honestly believe this has the power to change your life for the better.
I know it changed mine, and I feel so strongly about it that I couldn’t bring myself NOT to share it with you.
By now I’m sure you’ve at least heard of the movie The Secret, even if you haven’t actually seen it. But just in case, The Secret is all about something called The Law of Attraction, which basically says that we attract everything that’s in our lives, whether it’s good or bad, through our thoughts and emotions.
What’s really important about this is that, as you’ll notice, this philosophy of the way the world works says that we attract both good AND bad — whether consciously or unconsciously. So that means that you somehow, some way, attracted whatever relationship problems you’re having right now.
I don’t want that to sound harsh. But I’ll tell you what — I’ve seen this theory proven out time and time again in my own life. Once you accept that you’re in control over everything that happens in your life, I can’t tell you how empowering it is!
Here are a couple clips that kind of sum up what the movie is all about. The first is designed to be a sort of daily source of motivation.
The second is a “leaked” clip of the first 20 minutes of the movie.
Take a look and then please keep reading below the vids…
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The reason why I’m telling you about this is because when I first first saw the movie about a year and a half ago, back when the only way you could get it was to go the website and pay to watch it online, it totally changed my life.
I was going through a really tough time when I decided to check it out, and I’m more than a little embarrassed to admit that by the end I was actually crying.
Now I hardly ever cry because of a movie, but this thing so touched me, and made me realize how much joy we can have in our lives, that I just broke down.
It touches on everything — how to be more successful financially, how to overcome enormous obstacles, and, maybe of most interest to you right now, how to have an absolutely amazing relationship.
Basically, how to find AND KEEP your soulmate.
If you haven’t seen it go rent it from Netflix or Blockbuster or wherever you get your DVDs.
It really can be a life-changing experience.
Anyway, the reason I’m writing to you about it is because, while it really did work for me in helping me to create the life I’ve always dream of, sometimes it seemed that the principles she teaches didn’t always work.
It’s hard to explain, but something just seemed to be blocking me from achieving certain things in some areas, while in other areas of my life, everything would play out exactly as I wanted.
I’ve never really been much of a “self-help” kind of person. I never bought tapes or books or anything like that. But thanks to this movie and the experiences I had afterwards, I started looking into this a little more, and actually buying some audio programs and other products that helped me grow, become more self-aware, and yes, improve my life dramatically.
One of my favorite places to get these programs is a place called Nightingale-Conant. They have some truly amazing programs there from some of the best minds in the world on all kinds of topics.
The more programs I get from them, the more I want! They’re THAT good.
One of my favorites is something called The Missing Secret
by Dr. Joe Vitale. This was one of the first programs I got from them, and I did so because, like I said above, while the principles taught in the movie
The Secret seemed to work most of time, they didn’t work 100% of the time. The Missing Secret
changed all that.
It really is a remarkable program and will help you understand why you are where you are in your life right now, and how to get to where you really want to be. Click on the links above or on the image below to check it out for yourself.
The second Nightingale-Conant product I highly recommend is a program from Anthony Robbins called Unleash the Power Within
Tony Robbins is a guy I used to make fun off because he always seemed so over the top. But since I’ve picked up a few of his products and actually used them, I can see what a truly genuine guy he is. And I’ll tell you, he’s an amazing motivator.
If this guy can’t get your life headed in the right direction, I’d be shocked. Honestly.
I encourage you to check out this program here
. Actually, anything you find by Robbins on the Nightingale site is going to be good. I just happen to like this one in particular.
So that’s it, gang. Like I said, I know that this post is a little different from the others I do, but I really want to make sure that you know about all the great tools out there that you can use for creating lasting relationships that really, truly work.
I hope you’ll take a look at some of the things mentioned above and let me know what you think.
Saving your relationship and rekindling the flame that you ignited together can be a lot of work, but more often than not, that work is worth it. If you’ve decided that saving your relationship is something you want to do, and you’re willing to put the work in, you can be successful.
So let’s take a look at how it’s done…
First, understand that it’s inevitable that there will rocky moments in any relationship regardless of how much the two of you love one another.
The question that remains is how to go about recapturing what you once shared. Love is not something that comes along everyday. When two people find each other and fall in love, it will take some work to keep it going. The occasional disagreement will occur. The problem is when those disagreements become so frequent that it puts enough strain on a relationship to cause it to fall apart.
If this describes what you’re going through, the very first thing I would do is head over here to watch a short 10 minutes video on some of the things you should be doing RIGHT NOW to begin the process of repairing your relationship. There’s some great advice there, and I highly recommend you check it out.
Arguing — how much is too much?
In fact, arguing is very healthy. You will not always agree on everything. Even though you have formed together as one, you are still two separate people with two opinions of how things should work.If your partner has done something that you feel is unforgiveable, then maybe it is best to part your ways.
Living with that hurt and anger will only contribute to further issues and promote additional arguments that are really unnecessary. An affair, for example, could be perceived as something that is just not forgivable. And although a lot hurt and anger resulted from this action, one should really take a look at the reason this happened.
In most cases people do not just decide to cheat on their significant other. Something happened in the relationship that led up to this action.The first step in salvaging the relationship is getting to the root of the real problem. If you never discover the issue that really caused the damage, then it cannot be dealt with and will only lead to further issues.
What to do if communication has broken down
These issues could cause permanent damage to not only the relationship, but each other’s health as well. As much as one would like to just shut his/her eyes real tight and wish the problem away, it is not going to happen. Communication is imperative to the relationship.
And as many times as we have heard this, there several situations I am confident that can recalled that our communication with another individual was not exactly up to par. We were all teenagers at one time. And I know I personally tried to pull the wool over my mom’s eyes a couple of times.
It was not long before I realized that if I was honest and upfront with her, I would be given a lot more freedom. Romantic relationships are very similar. Keeping the communication flow open with your partner will allow for the trust to grow.
He or she will not have the insecurities that can arise from lack of communication.If all else fails, maybe seek professional help. There are many good relationship counselors that can help you with your issues, or maybe just act as a mediator between the two of you while you discuss your issues.
Find someone that you both feel comfortable with.Take your time. It took time to build the relationship. It is definitely going to take time to heal. If you both agree to try and work things out, there really should be no rush in mending the tears.
And remember, please go here and watch this video right away. It will get you started on the right foot in saving your relationship. Hope this helps.
Ahhh, love! Such a wonderful feeling when you are in it, and there is no other individual that you could possibly share that emotion with the way you do with your significant other. The next step is marriage. Both of you have vowed that there will never be another, and you promise to love and cherish one another for the rest of your lives.
Suddenly the soft music stops playing in the air…the honeymoon is over. The realization that there is more to a marriage than just the love shared between each other, it really takes work.
Marriage is a commitment and almost even a contract between the parties involved. Should that contract ever be compromised, what would one do? There are ways to save a troubled marriage. In some cases, saving it is much better than walking away. (One note, however — in my opinion, if the relationship is abusive in anyway, both parties should consider parting their ways. If not, then working to save it can be the best way to go.)
Before going any further, the very best resource I’ve found for saving a marriage is right here (click on the link to check it out). There’s a very quick video there that will walk you through some of the steps you should be taking immediately. It’s well worth the 10 minutes or so it will take to watch it.
Some things you should do (and other you should never do)…
In order to save the marriage, one must take a look at what is actually causing the problem. Relationship expert Emily Battaglia discusses some of the top reasons that can cause damaging results to a marriage.
The first one she mentions is withholding sex. For some it is the constant bickering that keeps them from having the desire. Sex is a very intimate moment that is shared between two people….it is a bonding, and should not be overlooked.
If it is the fighting, get over it. After all, it has been said that make up sex is the best. She goes on to discuss other issues like spending too much time with family, work, friends…..spending too much money.
For whatever reason your marriage has been damaged, and needs instant attention. By discovering where the issue was actually started, the involved parties have taken the first step in salvaging their relationship.
Are you committed?
Commitment is the next step in saving your marriage. Both parties have to want to make an attempt to save what they have been building for the past however many years. It is imperative that the heart and mind stay open during the rocky stage.
Set goals. Make them small and positive in the beginning. They need to be achievable. Any negative setback can only cause additional harm to the relationship. If the goal is not achieved, this could definitely have a negative effect on the situation.
Forgiveness, although difficult due to the anger that has risen, is an absolute obligation you both need to apply. Whatever it was that went wrong in the relationship, you have to ask yourself is it really worth obsessing over?
So some extra money that you all really did not have budgeted was used improperly. You both discussed it, or argued, and it is over. There is nothing you or your spouse can do to change what happened. What you can do is find a solution to the current problem at hand and find ways to avoid it in the future.
Saving your marriage will not happen overnight, so patience is a must during this process. It could months or even years to salvage what you all had. Take your time and do what is right for both of you. And remember, please click here to watch this quick video before you do anything else. It will help.