Does it seem like relationships and cheating go to together like chocolate and peanut butter? It can start to when everyone you know has had someone cheat on them. And chances are that youíve had someone cheat on you. Or when it comes to relationships and cheating, you were the one doing the cheating.
Cheating hurts. It hurts the person whoís being cheated on, and believe it or not, it hurts the cheater. The cheater has to hide what heís doing, probably has to lie to keep it a secret and has to feel the guilt that goes with it.
Even if he or she doesnít seem guilty, they probably secret feel guilty. When there are relationships and cheating occurs, that doesnít mean the end of the relationship every time.
Youíve been in a relationship and youíve been cheated on, and youíve gotten back together or youíve never broken up. Can you really make it work now that the other person has cheated? How do you get over it? Will he cheat again?
Itís not easy to save these relationships, and cheating is something that can sometimes happen more than once. But if you can truly rebuild your trust in the other person, then you can stay together and be happy.
Do you know why the person cheated on you? Thatís a very important consideration in whether youíll be able to trust them not to cheat on you again. Were things not good in your relationship at the time, or was it just convenient and just ìhappened?î You should be able to have a calm discussion about these reasons.
If the reasons turn out to be things like he or she was simply bored that day and the opportunity came along, then you may have problems. If the other person can give no better reasons for hurting you that way, you may want to consider whether you really can forgive them to be happy. It wonít be easy.
If you were having problems, then at least the other person may have thought that the relationship was going to end anyway. They might have felt ignored or undervalued. This is not to give them a good excuse for cheatingóthey were wrong. But it can help you to understand what they were thinking at the time and you can work on the problems together.
Relationships and cheating are a curious mixture, with some couples able to move on quite well after the devastation of an affair. Sometimes, though, the person who was cheating on canít get over it. To stay in the relationship when thereís no trust there, and he or she fears that the other will cheat at any time, can be a miserable thing to do.
The constant suspicions can make you miserable, and can make the other person feel under a microscope 24/7. You have to decide to trust the person not to hurt you again, and let go of the fear even though it can be very hard to do in relationships and cheating situations.