Relationships 101: How To Save Your Relationship

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You might think itís too bad you canít take a class called relationships 101 in college. They offer math, physics, literature and tons of classes, but a class on relationships is something that could help everyone. Fortunately, you have the skills already to save your relationship and make it better without needed a relationships 101 course.

Most relationships, no matter what happens, can be saved. There are a few relationships that shouldnít be saved, like those that are abusive or really miserable. But most others have the potential to be fixed. That should be lesson number in any relationships 101 class.

The problem is, people give up too soon. Theyíre angry, hurt, upset and it just seems easiest to get out of the situation that made them that way. Itís all too easy to focus only on whatís happening now, and not the past.

If the relationship was good at one point, and most were or no one would have stayed in it very long, then it really can be that way again. But people have to look past the anger and the problems that are happening now, and remember those good times. Thatís the only way theyíll even want to try to use relationships 101 theory to save the couple.

To cause further problems, often one person is ready to work hard at saving the relationship. But the other person wonít look past the bad to remember the good. That person is ready to chuck it all away. And can only person save a relationship?

Sometimes one person can do it, but itís not easy. Itís hard to stay positive and hopeful when your boyfriend of girlfriend doesnít act or feel the same. It can start to feel like youíre fighting a losing battle.

Relationships 101 lesson #2: Keep fighting the battle, because even if the relationship doesnít heal, it will make you a better person. Thatís because the things youíll do to try to save the relationship are simply good for you, and good for the other person, too.

Itís very important to remember the way you behaved with the relationship was new and going strong. Compare that to how you behave with that person now. And turn things around by acting the way you used to, and doing the things you used to.

Strive to be polite again just as you were in the beginning. Be thoughtful and be a good friend to the person whenever you can, even if youíre not going to get anything out of it. Donít beg them to come back, tell them they need to come back, or threaten what will happen if they donít come back.

When faced with someone acting like that, would you want to be with that person again?  Tell yourself that youíll survive no matter what happens, but do your very best to show them the person they want to be with again. Best the best ìyouî no matter what is the best relationships 101 lesson there is.