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No matter how old you are, what you do or where you live, there is a good chance that you’ve had your heart broken at the end of a relationship, probably more than once.
Now, before we go on, you need to go and watch this 9 minute video on how to get your ex back. It will truly transform the way you look at everything, and give you some actions you need to take this instant if you want to save your relationship.
Please do it now. Click here to watch the video.
When you are looking at what’s left of an amazing relationship, there is a good chance that you feel overcome with pain and remorse, and you may be so overwrought that you don’t know that what you are going through is reversible!
The truth of the matter is that relationships are easier to recover than you might think. When you are looking at the idea of getting back together with your ex, you will find that by keeping some things in mind that you can help yourself out.
The first thing that you should be thinking about when you are getting back together with someone is that you have time and experience on your side.
If your relationship has been going on for a while, it will be what both of you consider normal. Especially in the first few weeks, living without a significant other and without the support that you have given each other is something that is quite difficult and strange.
You will find that going back to the way things were is actually quite natural and that you can use this to your advantage.
The second thing that you should keep in mind is that you should not let your ex drift too far. If at all possible, leave the lines of communication open and make sure that you can take the time to really consider what you are going to be doing to get them back.
Don’t cut off all email or phone contact, even if it is painful. Continue to talk as naturally as you can and don’t stop yourself from bringing up the relationship.
Just keep it natural and talk about what you can do in order to get the right kind of response. Step up and be blunt about wanting to get back together.
If you are considering attempting to get your ex back, never speak badly about them. Even if you feel as though you have a right to be angry, don’t speak about those feelings with anyone but your ex.
You will find that even things that you tell your friends in confidence have a way of getting around, and this is the last thing you need. When you are looking to make sure that you can get the right results from your attempt to get back together, don’t let gossip sabotage you.
When you are looking to make sure that you are going to be able to get back together with your ex, make sure that you understand why things went wrong. Say that the relationship ended because your significant other cheated.
What can you do to make sure that this doesn’t happen again? What sort of cooperation will it take from them? You will find that unless you have ironed out these things, you will just be repeating history.
Take some time to consider what getting back together with your ex could be like. There are many different options that are open to you when you are looking to get back together with your ex, so don’t despair!
I decided to write this article for you today, even though it’s a little different than the information I usually put up here on the blog, because I honestly believe this has the power to change your life for the better.
I know it changed mine, and I feel so strongly about it that I couldn’t bring myself NOT to share it with you.
By now I’m sure you’ve at least heard of the movie The Secret, even if you haven’t actually seen it. But just in case, The Secret is all about something called The Law of Attraction, which basically says that we attract everything that’s in our lives, whether it’s good or bad, through our thoughts and emotions.
What’s really important about this is that, as you’ll notice, this philosophy of the way the world works says that we attract both good AND bad — whether consciously or unconsciously. So that means that you somehow, some way, attracted whatever relationship problems you’re having right now.
I don’t want that to sound harsh. But I’ll tell you what — I’ve seen this theory proven out time and time again in my own life. Once you accept that you’re in control over everything that happens in your life, I can’t tell you how empowering it is!
Here are a couple clips that kind of sum up what the movie is all about. The first is designed to be a sort of daily source of motivation.
The second is a “leaked” clip of the first 20 minutes of the movie.
Take a look and then please keep reading below the vids…
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The reason why I’m telling you about this is because when I first first saw the movie about a year and a half ago, back when the only way you could get it was to go the website and pay to watch it online, it totally changed my life.
I was going through a really tough time when I decided to check it out, and I’m more than a little embarrassed to admit that by the end I was actually crying.
Now I hardly ever cry because of a movie, but this thing so touched me, and made me realize how much joy we can have in our lives, that I just broke down.
It touches on everything — how to be more successful financially, how to overcome enormous obstacles, and, maybe of most interest to you right now, how to have an absolutely amazing relationship.
Basically, how to find AND KEEP your soulmate.
If you haven’t seen it go rent it from Netflix or Blockbuster or wherever you get your DVDs.
It really can be a life-changing experience.
Anyway, the reason I’m writing to you about it is because, while it really did work for me in helping me to create the life I’ve always dream of, sometimes it seemed that the principles she teaches didn’t always work.
It’s hard to explain, but something just seemed to be blocking me from achieving certain things in some areas, while in other areas of my life, everything would play out exactly as I wanted.
I’ve never really been much of a “self-help” kind of person. I never bought tapes or books or anything like that. But thanks to this movie and the experiences I had afterwards, I started looking into this a little more, and actually buying some audio programs and other products that helped me grow, become more self-aware, and yes, improve my life dramatically.
One of my favorite places to get these programs is a place called Nightingale-Conant. They have some truly amazing programs there from some of the best minds in the world on all kinds of topics.
The more programs I get from them, the more I want! They’re THAT good.
One of my favorites is something called The Missing Secret
by Dr. Joe Vitale. This was one of the first programs I got from them, and I did so because, like I said above, while the principles taught in the movie
The Secret seemed to work most of time, they didn’t work 100% of the time. The Missing Secret
changed all that.
It really is a remarkable program and will help you understand why you are where you are in your life right now, and how to get to where you really want to be. Click on the links above or on the image below to check it out for yourself.
The second Nightingale-Conant product I highly recommend is a program from Anthony Robbins called Unleash the Power Within
Tony Robbins is a guy I used to make fun off because he always seemed so over the top. But since I’ve picked up a few of his products and actually used them, I can see what a truly genuine guy he is. And I’ll tell you, he’s an amazing motivator.
If this guy can’t get your life headed in the right direction, I’d be shocked. Honestly.
I encourage you to check out this program here
. Actually, anything you find by Robbins on the Nightingale site is going to be good. I just happen to like this one in particular.
So that’s it, gang. Like I said, I know that this post is a little different from the others I do, but I really want to make sure that you know about all the great tools out there that you can use for creating lasting relationships that really, truly work.
I hope you’ll take a look at some of the things mentioned above and let me know what you think.
Ahhh, love! Such a wonderful feeling when you are in it, and there is no other individual that you could possibly share that emotion with the way you do with your significant other. The next step is marriage. Both of you have vowed that there will never be another, and you promise to love and cherish one another for the rest of your lives.
Suddenly the soft music stops playing in the air…the honeymoon is over. The realization that there is more to a marriage than just the love shared between each other, it really takes work.
Marriage is a commitment and almost even a contract between the parties involved. Should that contract ever be compromised, what would one do? There are ways to save a troubled marriage. In some cases, saving it is much better than walking away. (One note, however — in my opinion, if the relationship is abusive in anyway, both parties should consider parting their ways. If not, then working to save it can be the best way to go.)
Before going any further, the very best resource I’ve found for saving a marriage is right here (click on the link to check it out). There’s a very quick video there that will walk you through some of the steps you should be taking immediately. It’s well worth the 10 minutes or so it will take to watch it.
Some things you should do (and other you should never do)…
In order to save the marriage, one must take a look at what is actually causing the problem. Relationship expert Emily Battaglia discusses some of the top reasons that can cause damaging results to a marriage.
The first one she mentions is withholding sex. For some it is the constant bickering that keeps them from having the desire. Sex is a very intimate moment that is shared between two people….it is a bonding, and should not be overlooked.
If it is the fighting, get over it. After all, it has been said that make up sex is the best. She goes on to discuss other issues like spending too much time with family, work, friends…..spending too much money.
For whatever reason your marriage has been damaged, and needs instant attention. By discovering where the issue was actually started, the involved parties have taken the first step in salvaging their relationship.
Are you committed?
Commitment is the next step in saving your marriage. Both parties have to want to make an attempt to save what they have been building for the past however many years. It is imperative that the heart and mind stay open during the rocky stage.
Set goals. Make them small and positive in the beginning. They need to be achievable. Any negative setback can only cause additional harm to the relationship. If the goal is not achieved, this could definitely have a negative effect on the situation.
Forgiveness, although difficult due to the anger that has risen, is an absolute obligation you both need to apply. Whatever it was that went wrong in the relationship, you have to ask yourself is it really worth obsessing over?
So some extra money that you all really did not have budgeted was used improperly. You both discussed it, or argued, and it is over. There is nothing you or your spouse can do to change what happened. What you can do is find a solution to the current problem at hand and find ways to avoid it in the future.
Saving your marriage will not happen overnight, so patience is a must during this process. It could months or even years to salvage what you all had. Take your time and do what is right for both of you. And remember, please click here to watch this quick video before you do anything else. It will help.
If your ex is showing you a little bit of interest, or seems more interested in going out and spending time with you than before, or if you notice signs that your ex is trying to flirt with you, then it’s okay to be a little hopeful but you need to avoid jumping the gun. Are you asking yourself “does my ex want to get back with me”?
These are definitely very common signs that your ex is interested in getting you back. But even if you want to get back with your ex, you should not simply jump into things. The best way to play things is to play hard to get (in moderation), which is probably what your ex will best respond to anyway.
If you simply jump into things full force, then you may find your ex pushing you back again. In fact, if your ex is giving indications that he or she wants you back, then the odds are, it was you playing hard to get that led to the renewed interest in the first place.
Usually when you break up with your ex, or he or she breaks up with you, there is a natural level of missing one another, or longing to get back together. This is especially true following a relationship of a year or longer. Your ex is probably going to miss you no matter what, because of how many memories were shared together during this period of time.
But there are other emotions that come into play including past regrets. If you are wondering “does my ex want to get back with me” the odds are that your ex may be thinking the same thing for the same reasons.
Sometimes when an ex shows interest again following a break up however, it is only a game. They may see that you love them, and they may simply be trying to get attention, without actually intending to get you back.
So, unless your ex really seems genuinely interested in spending time with you, they may just be passing the time because they have no other prospects on the horizon. And worst of all they may see this as away to get revenge for some perceived wrong.
This is why it is important not to jump the gun, and why you should focus on reading into the situation before you act on it.
This is common, and a lot of people find themselves wondering “does my ex want to get back with me?”, but the truth is, its better to get a feel for the situation before you act.
In reality, if your ex does want to get back with you, playing hard to get (in moderation) is the best scenario because it will prevent you from getting hurt if your ex is not really serious about getting back with you.
Breaking up is always a very painful thing — no doubt about it.
If you are truly in love with your girlfriend, it’s difficult to get her out of your mind. It’s a tough time for you, yes, but there isn’t any need to despair. Though it’s difficult, it’s not impossible to woo back your girlfriend.
But first, let’s talk about some of the things you should NEVER do. I’ll be honest. When my girlfriend broke up with me, I did all these things and a few more that aren’t even mentioned. And it delayed our getting back together by months.
Now listen, the first thing you need to do is go here and watch this 10 minute video. It will spell out step-by-step the first things you have to do to start the process of winning your girlfriend back.
It even has some tips for what to do if you made all the WRONG moves already like I did. You can recover from it and get back on the road to reconciliation, but you have to start doing the right things immediately.
So watch this video and then come back here.
Okay, now, you need to sit down and think out the answers of a few questions essential to any relationship. You need to ask yourself: What went wrong? Honestly, do you think it’s your fault? And finally, are you ready to give it another shot? Do you really want your girlfriend back?
It’s important to know the reason for the disintegration of the relationship. If you do decide that you want to get back together with your girlfriend you need to know what went wrong in the relationship in the first place. Was there another man? Is she still interested in you? What did she complain about in the relationship? It’s important that you get a clear and honest view of the relationship, without prejudices or bias.
Only if you know the reason for the relationship having gone wrong can you try to make it work again.
It’s essential that you show your ex-girlfriend that you still care.
If you think that you had changed earlier, try to change back to the person she fell in love with. Remember what she liked and disliked when you two were together. Invite her over for lunch if you’re still on cordial terms with her, or send her little gifts to show how much you love her.
Have confidence in yourself. Don’t become a miserable loser /stalker: your ex will respect you for it.
There are some underhand, sly tricks in the book that you could try as a last resort. Like trying to date another girl. If your ex-girlfriend still cares about you and wants to get back together, this will definitely get her jealous and might make her regret her decision.
However, don’t get too involved in this particular method, she might just think that you have moved on and are no longer interested!
Another good method might be The Talk. Yes, this is what most guys dread but in fact, can lead to a better understanding of where you and your ex stand. Invite her over for coffee and your favorite coffee place and honestly talk to each other.
Try to express how you feel at the present moment, ask her what she went through and whether she thinks that you can still work it out. It’s important that you be both loyal to her and be completely frank.
All relationships need hard work to make it successful. So decide whether you are committed enough to go that extra mile. If you two really care about each other and understand each other’s emotional needs, it’s best that you try to mend the cracks.
Click here for the best advice I’ve found on how to win your girlfriend back. Believe me, it works.
But remember, if she doesn’t want you back, there’s no point in hanging onto lost causes. Try to re-evaluate your priorities and move on.